Wellness4Wholeness
Wellness Warriors: Your Battles, Your Wins, Our Mission.
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Today is a beautiful spring day and the sun is shining into my study. It is peaceful, until the phone rings.
There is an Afrikaans-speaking lady on the other end. She forgot to introduce herself properly and she exclaimed that she is a social worker who will die if she had to do trauma counselling in English. Apparently, someone passed away and some elderly people might need counselling there and then. As I am trying to establish the who, what, where and more detail she concludes with a hand full of snap-judgements and ends the call.
This weird conversation dimmed the joy of my Springday a little. I had to recalibrate what I am passionate about and what is excluded from my portfolio of services. My re-assessment is as follows:
- I am passionate about helping people to become well and whole.
- Being compassionate doesn’t mean I am a doormat.
- Being caring doesn’t constitute keeping quiet in the face of injustice and abuse.
- Being empathetic doesn’t mean I have to fix anyone.
- Showing kindness means I remember where I am coming from, and I honour the grace of God in my life.
I’ll continue to study and create content around trauma, hope and Christian Pastoral Counselling. I’ll share the joy of caring and making a difference with my colleagues, students, and friends.
If you have one of those conversations that let your head and head spin at the same time – Stop – Recalibrate and keep on doing what you do best.
I can help you to refocus and put the trauma behind you. Book an appointment.
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Did you know that your perceptions can stop you from finding creative solutions for the challenges that you face today? Here are a few suggestions on how to broaden your perspective and discover your unique triumphs:
- Create a journal for your random questions, ideas, and new thoughts.
- Read widely and think about a range of topics. Read about new topics.
- Enjoy activities such as walking, music, arts, and crafts, as well as daydreaming to stimulate your imagination.
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The question is not if I ever find it hard to deal with a problem. The key word is ‘when’. I found that it is alright when I struggle with a problem, even though I am the breakthrough companion that demystifies trauma and crises.
Wrestling with a problem is normal in research, studying and daily living. This struggle is caused by dealing with a new question or the resources are insufficient to jump to a quick fix. Quick fixes usually make problems worse.
My recipe for facings challenges is rather simple.
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There is the noble slogan “live and let live” that is supposed to rule society, but life is not so simple. A colleague phoned me earlier today, asking for advice on how to deal with a work situation where mind games are on the order of the day.
Mind games in the shape of extreme manipulation that is also known as gaslighting.